So at 1:00am this morning…a shrill ring that wouldn’t stop. Once I had my wits about me, I found the phone and answered it. It was my sister…the sister that my Mom is currently visiting.
"Book Mom a flight home for tomorrow" she says.
"Huh?"
"Book Mom a flight home for tomorrow, she doesn’t want to be here" she says again.
"Let me call you back", I say.
I’m thinking, WOW…that was short-lived. You see, my Mom went to visit my sister in CA on Thursday. This is the sister who emplores us to not put Mom in any kind of home, who has volunteered to have Mom move in with her…Mom has been there since Thursday afternoon and she already wants to send my Mom home, a week earlier than scheduled.
I call her back and explain that I have appointments all day and can’t pick Mom up until after 6pm…you see, my Mom is out of town, now is the time that I try to get all my personal stuff done, because when Mom gets back she takes up the majority of my time. My sister says she has Mom’s credit cards and she is coming home on Monday whether I am there to meet her plane or not.
I didn’t know what else to do so I got the "Peacemaker" involved hoping he could talk some sense into her…even he couldn’t.
This is the sister that is most vocal about how I care for our Mom…the one who accused me of taking my frustrations out on our Mom, physically. This is the sister who calls my little brother and begs him not to put Mom in a care facility…but yet she could only deal with Mom for 4 days. I can’t say as I am surprised…and I am sure this sister will promote her trials and tribulations with Mom to be worse than what I have to deal with on a daily basis. And she’s already blaming the fact that Mom is so bad on me and messing with Mom’s medications. Last time I checked I didn’t have M.D. after my name, nor the ability to dispense medications. Mom is this way because she is deteriorating…pure and simple. IT’s no body’s fault, but we all have to come to terms with the fact that she is deteriorating and figure out the best way to deal with it, rather than finding blame.
UGH…Happy Monday!
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This is the look of ‘no surprise’ on my face! We sooooo called this at the last crop. I cannot believe that she is so high and mighty about your mom’s care yet she cannot provide a weeks worth herself. How hypocritical. Pam, your a saint for dealing with everything and trying to keep your own family afloat at the same time.