After yesterday’s fiasco…Brian and I kept discussing Mom letting the dogs go as well as the night I returned home from an evening out to find just about every light in the house on, the big garage door open and the door from the garage to the house ajar. Thankfully, that night the dogs were gated in our bedroom…but it was a close call.
The more I thought of those instances the more I realized that there is nothing stopping Mom from wondering off in the middle of the night…Brian and I wouldn’t necessarily hear it. The dogs would likely make a fuss and wake one of us up…but that’s not a guarantee. This has become a health and safety issue and I don’t mean just Mom’s health and safety, but everyone/thing in the house.
I called Porter to present this info. Originally we wanted to wait until after the holidays to put Mom in a facility…and we only wanted to do it once rather than putting her in one now and possibly moving her after the first of the year. But now I think it’s time to get her in one now and while she may hate moving into a different one later, most likely she won’t remember it after a few days.
Porter said he would call and share what happened with Jan and Jeff and I called Lynnea. Lynnea is the one that is actively looking for someplace near her to move Mom. Lynnea is the perfect choice, I think. Wally is retired and Lynn owns her own business so she can make her own hours…they would be available for emergencies and also to take Mom to doctor appointments or just out to dinner at the casino.
One of the things my siblings want, and Lynnea would need, is a comprehensive written report on the state of Mom’s dementia. Francine clued me in to UMC having a program that does just that. After much frustration we’ve tracked down the clinic that does it (and it’s U of NV School of Med., not UMC). They, of course, are closed today because of "Nevada Admissions Day".
Anyway, I’ve digressed. Po calls Jeff and Jan and Jan wants to be here for the appointment with UNSOM! She has questions she wants to ask. This is what gets filed under "utterly clueless". Does she not realize, or remember, that she intimated I take my frustrations out on my Mom, physically???? Or, how about the 4 day trip to her house that Mom made…where she called and told me to book Mom a flight and she was sending Mom whether I was there to get her or not. I’m sure if she read this she would say I was making this all up. And she thinks I would want to be in the same Doctor’s office with her???? OH MY GOD???? I called Porter back and told him absolutely not. He can come, or Lynn can come…or better yet. Everyone can e-mail questions to me that I could have the doctor address in the reports so Jan can’t come back and say I ignored or deleted her questions. Either way there is absolutely NO FUCKING WAY Jan is going with me to that appointment!
OK…now that I’ve got that out of my system, I feel better.
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