Today is mine and Brian’s 18th wedding anniversary. 18 years! WOW! In this era where the divorce rate is 50%, I think our 18 is really an accomplishment…or is it?
I can’t help but think of a couple of very dear girlfriends of mine. One recently celebrated 50 years of wedded bliss with her darling husband…WOW! Another friend, sadly, recently divorced after 45 years of marriage. WOW!
Why does one couple make it? And another not? I haven’t asked this of my newly divorced friend…frankly it’s none of my business. I do wonder, though, what happens when a marriage of such length breaks down…or more appropriately, how do I keep it from happening to me? I would have thought, mistakenly, that after a certain length of time together (20 years? 25 years?), a marriage would be “vaccinated” against divorce, but that isn’t the case.
I guess all I or anyone else can do is be true to themselves and each other. A little hope and prayer that Brian and I continue to work and grow together, rather than apart, wouldn’t hurt either.
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I was at your wedding. It seems like yesterday, it cannot be 18 years!! We had FUN, your parents really knew how to throw a party. It was such a happy day and I’m glad you and Brian are still happy together.
Belated Congrats! Kurt and I will be celebrating 20 years this summer and I cannot speak for anyone else, but I can tell you what works for us. Alcohol and ignoring all of the stupid things the other one has to say. Knowing that the grass is not greener somewhere else and the tough times sometimes turn out to be the best times in retrospect. Or maybe the good times seem better after that. I’m not sure but it is always an adventure and there is nowhere else I would rather be.